There have been a lot of articles making the rounds on social media about how to tell if you are an extrovert or an introvert. A lot of these are fun and interesting, but to be honest I find many of them rife with cliches, stereotypes, and sweeping generalizations.
“Hate talking on the phone? You are definitely an introvert!” Or maybe you are just a person who prefers the nuance and body language than accompanies face-to-face communication. “Love parties? An extrovert for sure!” Yeah, many extroverts do enjoy parties, but there are plenty who dislike loud, raucous events and would prefer to talk to people in a more reserved setting.
Of course, when we talk about extroverts and introverts, it is sometimes hard not to just focus on the extreme ends of the spectrum. The stereotypical extrovert who can’t seem to stop talking or the textbook introvert who would rather curl up with a good book that go out and socialize. But the reality is that most of us are somewhere more toward the middle.
Of course there are plenty of people who probably do fit somewhat into these caricatures, but the important thing to remember is the extroversion and introversion represent two ends of a continuum. Your own personality might lie toward one end or the other, or you might even find yourself smack-dab in the middle. Sure, you might exhibit classic introvert characteristics like enjoying solitude, avoiding phone calls, and disliking bustling crowds, but you might also enjoy things like going out to the movies with friends or meeting new people.
Still can’t figure out if you are an extrovert or introvert (or maybe even an ambivert)?
Start by answering this key question: Do you gain energy from spending time with a group of people or do such interactions leave you feeling drained?
If you feel exhausted and spent after socializing, chances are that you are an introvert. But if such social interactions leave you feeling energized, inspired, and refreshed, you are most likely an extrovert?
Of course, I had to come up with my own list of characteristics for both extroverts and introverts, but I tried to be a bit more measured in my descriptions than some of the quizzes and articles that keep cropping up in my Facebook news feed. Remember, if you come away feeling like to don’t really fit into either personality type, it probably just means that you are right in the middle of the extroversion-introversion spectrum. Learn more about some of the signs that you might be an extrovert or an introvert to see which type best describes you!